Compassion & Sympathy

When a person has sympathy for another... you are not allowed to get annoyed right? You need to show compassion and understanding... Am I a bad person for wanting to slap another person upside that head during a time in their life when they are clearly battling to cope?

My problem is that when someone is going to a rough patch... brings it on... let me know listen, help, whatever... BEEN there! Many times! I've gone through shit in my life that many other people have told me they wouldn't have been able to deal with. I might not understand how YOU feel... cause no-one feels the same... but I can relate, sympathize, empathize... but BY HEAVEN ALONE, don't you DARE make it out to be a spectacle and become a attention seeking lunatic.

See, this is where I'm getting cloudy. Cause I SEE what these people are doing to themselves. Self destructive "children" if you will, that want to make another person SEE that they are wrong and they are the problem and they are right not the other person and they should make everything right and THEN they profess to the world or whoever will listen that the other person is such a bad person cause look how hurt you are... 

I get so upset. Why do people not realize how short life it. How amazing life can be. It's not dependent on another person defining you. You define who you are. You are the sculptor and maker of your destiny. YOU are the key to accepting yourself and your life and making the most of it. No drug, no Dr, no person will be able to "fix" you, except YOU.

You are only as happy as you allow yourself to be. No-one can make you happy without You being happy with yourself. THEN no-one can hurt or destroy you because you'll be confident and comfortable with yourself enough to not be afraid to be alone. Can everyone go and have a cup of coffee by themselves? Take comfort in that fact that not all people can. I never used to be able to too, but I can now. 

You see what I've learned, this took many moons to get to, you allow people in your life to share your own joys so if you have no joy, and you can't share your joy. You cannot depend on them to make them give you joy. They will never to be able to give you what you seek then...

So here it is...

You are the director of you own show, your own production... your life. You make the decisions of who you cast in it. What roles they play and whether or not they should be there. You have that power through your entire life.

It's not easy - I won't pretend like it is, especially when you in a place so dark and humid. But it's worth the effort.

Neen